Of Warrants and Winter Bird Houses

Since "He who shall not be named"chose to miss a December 19th court date, and hasn't paid a dime of child support since November...or was it October?
"He Who" is $11,000 in arrearage...
The Judge decided "He-Who" was in contempt of court.
Not, "a Crappy dad so go far away"
Not, "Your hurting your little boy dude, grow UP already"
Not, WTF Mr Man?"
Not any of the above, but -
contempt of court.

A warrant was issued last Friday, and I'm way too co-dependent not to write about how sick this has made ME, not to mention Al.
(It's near-to-impossible to hide things from your kid when your a single parent)
The whole your-dad-may-go-to-jail-over-not-being-a-real-dad-to-you thing HAS to suck.

I can't imagine my dad going to jail, or a warrant being issued for his arrest, over ANYTHING, let alone not taking care of my brother and I. My brain wont comp any of it.

At the moment, The Mer and Indigo are running through the house laughing their heads off, their shirts stuffed with clothes, bouncing off each other, Mer says "You (laugh) won't (laugh) put me (laugh, laugh) in jail sucka! (laugh, laugh, laugh - CRASH!

So much for concrete walls.
At least it's coming through in his play, the working through his feelings I guess.
I have $40 to my name Marc, so if you read this remember who you hurt when you chose to ignore the court date and the child support court order, you don't hurt me.

I make stupid decisions.
Always have and probably always will.
Counting on money that wasn't actually there.
I don't even have credit cards, ignore and trash all the "You've Been Pre-Approved!" letters that stuff my mail slot since buying a home...WHY would I count on a bonus?

Dumbass. Now I'm paying out the wazoo, been living off my deductible for the house.
So what better will it be if he's in jail? If he has to spend $1,000 to bond out? That's a $1,000 in back child support damnit!

The system of this world sucks.
Sucks for little kids who need their dads more than money.

So The Mer took his bird house (the one they built last week when "He Who" decided to show up) to Cub Scouts to paint by himself because I had to work.
I have to work tonight also. Something I swore I'd never do, work nights and not be there for Mer.

We do what we have to do as Mothers, we do whatever it takes, and sometimes, a lot of the time, it sucks profoundly...BUT, we do it.

I have exactly one hour to take a shower and get to Hogwart's College of Dentistry" for a partial root canal, then leave in time to get to the Mall to work till close.

Because this is what mothers do when they have $40 left to their name and they love their child more than life.

Soon I'm going to post pictures of my friends house - Impressive Restorations has done it again!

Comments

[Stef]

Won't do a whole lot of good for him to be thrown in jail, IMHO, because then you won't get ANY money. Does he work and wouldn't they garnish his wages? I know they'll take any tax refund he gets, because that happens to my ex every year.

I noticed the manga under the birdhouse. Al's into that too, huh? Seems like every boy I know from about 6 on up has a collection of Japanese mangas. For my kids (my teenagers at least) it was a natural progression from Pokemon cards!